Emotional Investments

It is a given truth that there are people out there in the world, married and single, who are afraid of allowing any emotional attachment or involvement in a relationship. This is a destructive element inanyone's life.

Some have been burned, badly burned in a relationship. Some are afraid of being burned.

Finding and being with that special person, that "bosom friend", as Anne Shirley of "Anne of Green Gables", mentions, is not easy to do. And not automatically maintained, when found. But to exclude oneself from the chance, is to never have the chance. To exclude oneself from LOVE, one never truly knows LOVE.

Depth of passion comes with a price: depth of feeling. You cannot care for others until you care about others.

It is an awesome experience to have someone massage and caress your own flesh. But it is an even more awesome and fulfilling experience when someone holds and caresses your own longing heart.

One cannot experience the depth of joy of turly knowing someone, truly investing hope in their kindred spirit, without an equal risk of disappointment and pain.

"Dancing With Dragons"

We spend so much time
Dancing with dragons
Our perceptions of fear
Of intimate relationships;
Hearts reaching out
Souls stretching to touch
But words never form
Or fall from our lips
And bonds are left unformed
For fear of misunderstanding
No touching and
Being touched
To find friendship
Or perhaps even

The famous author once penned, essentially, "It is better to have love and lost, than to have never loved at all".


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